Why Your Worst Emotions Are a Doorway

Most of us treat a bad feeling like a problem to get rid of. Anger, anxiety, the urge to check out. We push it away and hope it leaves.

I recently talked with Mark Andreas about a different idea. His mother, Connirae Andreas, developed Core Transformation when standard NLP wasn't working for her own deep issues. The idea is simple to say and surprising to try: follow a negative emotion, habit or behavior down to the positive intention underneath it. Keep following it, and you reach what they call core states. Peace. Wholeness. Love.

So the feeling you want to be rid of is not the enemy. It is a doorway.

Try this today. Pick one habit or reaction you don't like. Ask yourself, "What is this trying to get for me?" Then ask what that would give you. Keep going a few rounds and see where you land.

You can hear the whole conversation, including a live demonstration, on the podcast.

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